Libidus: A Review and comparison

Tuesday, March 28, 2006


A woman who is very much in love with a man cannot bear to hear the name of her rival mentioned, or to
have any conversation regarding her, or to be addressed by her name through mistake. If such takes place,
a great quarrel arises, and the woman cries, becomes angry, tosses her hair about, strikes her lover, falls
from her bed or seat, and, casting aside her garlands and ornaments, throws herself down on the ground.
At this time, the lover should attempt to reconcile her with conciliatory words, and should take her up
carefully and place her on her bed. But she, not replying to his questions, and with increased anger, should
bend down his head by pulling his hair, and having kicked him once, twice, or thrice on his arms, head,
bosom or back, should then proceed to the door of the room. Dattaka says that she should then sit angrily
near the door and shed tears, but should not go out, because she would be found fault with for going away.
After a time, when she thinks that the conciliatory words and actions of her lover have reached their utmost,
she should then embrace him, talking to him with harsh and reproachful words, but at the same time
showing a loving desire for congress.
When the woman is in her own house, and has quarrelled with her lover, she should go to him and show
how angry she is, and leave him. Afterwards the citizen having sent the Vita, the Vidushaka or the
Pithamarda to pacify her, she should accompany them back to the house, and spend the night with her
Thus end the love quarrels.
In conclusion.
A man, employing the sixty-four means mentioned by Babhravya, obtains his object, and enjoys the woman
of the first quality. Though he may speak well on other subjects, if he does not know the sixty- four divisions,
no great respect is paid to him in the assembly of the learned. A man, devoid of other knowledge, but well
acquainted with the sixty-four divisions, becomes a leader in any society of men and women. What man will
not respect the sixty-four arts, considering they are respected by the learned, by the cunning, and by the
courtesans. As the sixty-four arts are respected, are charming, and add to the talent of women, they are
called by the Acharyas dear to women. A man skilled in the sixty-four arts is looked upon with love by his
own wife, by the wives of others, and by courtesans.